They say time heals all wounds, but I disagree. I know too many people still hung up on events in the past for that to be true. I think, at least from my own personal experience, what heals the wounds is letting go of wishing things had turned out differently, or just were different, and accepting what is.
I believe most of the emotional pain we endure in life is self-inflicted and is a result of our unwillingness (or inability) to accept what is. And by that, I do not mean we have to like what is – we just have to accept it.
This is the biggest change I see in myself over the last couple of years, and what I believe is responsible for how much better I perceive my life to be today. I have let go of wishing things had turned out differently for me, and I am much better at keeping my butt firmly planted in the here and now where my life is happening, instead of stuck in the past I can’t do anything about or off in the future that hasn’t happened yet.
I am learning how to want what I have, instead of waiting to have what I want. It makes all the difference. And you know what I’ve found? I have a lot.
It’s easier said than done, however. It’s like forgiveness, you hurt yourself more than you do the other person by holding on to old grudges.
Perhaps this is the ‘wisdom’ of which people speak?
And thanks, I needed this today.
I have come to believe this very thing over the last year or so. I was holding on to things that hurt me and things that I couldn’t change no matter how hard I tried. Letting go was the best thing I could have done.
I was just reading a book “You Can Feel Good Again”, and there is a whole section about how time does not heal all wounds, letting go of them does. You can choose to dweel on something, or let it go and live on.