I had such a great day today! And today’s the full moon, no less! How cool is that??
First, I had my annual OB/GYN appt this morning at 9 and of course, the first thing they want you to do is step up on the scales…I have lost 4 pounds since I was in their office a month ago. That’s always a nice way to start off a doctor appt! Then, my blood pressure was exceptionally good, and they went ahead and drew a tube of blood for glucose and cholesterol tests because last year they were a bit off. I’ll find out about those by Friday, the nurse said. Lickety-split later, I was be-boppin’ out of there armed with some information about a new kind of birth control to consider when my Depo shot is due in July, and…
…wait for it…
…a little baggie of condoms for Second Son.
Oy.
But, I had decided to be ‘brave’ and ask them some questions like, “Is there such a thing as an OB/GYN equivalent yearly appt for guys? And can you arm me with some information I can use to discuss being sexually active and his responsibilities to himself, his health and any partners (he will have in about a decade when I let him back out of his room to see the light of day, much less a female…) he might have and their health.”
Folks, I don’t think Second Son is sexually active yet. But…you’ve seen pictures of him – he doesn’t look 14, either…and given the fact that he’s got girls from 9th all the way to 12th grade chasing him…well…I’d rather him be prepared and informed so he can at least be responsible about being irresponsible, ya know? (Aaacccckkk! My baby boy!)
So, even in spite of this bit, I was still be-boppin’ outta there…
Came back home, got some laundry going…plowed through the ol’ inbox….
And then proceeded to have the best two coaching/consulting appointments with web clients! I just LOVE how, thanks to one of my clients who initially asked (she’s so cool…and she visits here, so she’ll know who she is…hi!), more of my other clients are wanting to take advantage of my coaching skills, too, as if they heard her ask, or something… lol (She and I would both probably agree they did, though not literally…but that’s a discussion for another time. I know she’s chuckling with me right now…)
And to top it all off…it got to 94 (according to the weather man) and 99 (according to the temp displayed by my car when I was out picking up Second Son from football practice)…suffice it to say, it was freakin’ HOT here today!…and…
I still haven’t turned on my A/C and we haven’t melted!!!\
Oh yeah, baby…
I know my days of this are numbered, but I tell you what, I am SOOOOO enjoying this no central air thing right now!
Monday, Monday, so good to me….
Happy Tuesday (LOL)! Wouldn’t it be great if every day were awesome? Maybe that’s just a fantasy of mine, but hey, a girl can dream can’t she?
Oh and about those condoms and “sex talk” with the kids. . . I am hearing ya gotta start like around 3rd and 4th grade these days! Honest! The kids are “doing” each other (mostly orally, but still. . . ) in grade school. GRADE SCHOOL!!! Yeah. Parents need to get with the program and have those sex talks sooner rather than later!
Most parents I know would rather have all their teeth removed (without anesthesia) rather than do this — but your kids (and their safety and health) depend on you stepping up to the task BEFORE they need to know.
It’s a different world out there than when we were all kids — even a decade makes a difference.
So. THANK YOU for thinking about it — and for doing it.
And, umm, in case you didn’t catch the hint buried deep within this post, LOL, immediately after you get through with your son, get hold of your daughter and have a related-but-different version of that same conversation with her. Let her know how to stay safe no matter what’s going on.
From what I’m hearing from the kids, it’s embarrassing but they would rather know that you are there for them no matter what — and where you stand on all the issues (including drugs, sex, relationships, and all that good stuff.) And keep the door open forever — so there will be a safe place for them to go when “it” hits the fan (if “it” ever does.)
Go for it! Your readers are behind you 1000%!
Nancy
Nancy,
You are SO right…scary as it is, grade school is when it starts now. I remember being in grade school and being “in love” with a boy, and I daydreamed entire days away wondering what it would be like if he kissed me (mind you, my frame of reference was kissing my dad…quick pecks and that’s it!) Not so with these kids!
I have had several conversations with Second Son already (and you are right, the first one was the hardest and most embarrassing and I would rather have had all my teeth pulled – but we both lived through it) but this one is the first one where I’ll be saying, “Ok, look…I know it’s going to happen sooner or later – I vote later…WAY later – but I want you to be prepared and informed and also know that no matter how embarrassing, I’m here if you need to talk.”
I have these kinds of conversations with Oldest Son, and it’s no longer embarrassing (well, ok – maybe still a little embarrassing), but I’d like to be able to keep the door open forever, like you say, for all 3 of my kids.
So…yes, when I’m done with Second Son, I’ll be moving on to PDD. And I think this summer is going to be the summer of the ‘bra’…my boobies erupted onto the scene between 3rd and 4th grade, and it looks like the same is going to be true for her. I suspect there will be multiple ‘girl talk’ conversations between us this summer. 🙂
Suzanne