Self-Soothing Homework (a.k.a. A Good Excuse to Play)
Ok, so it's been a hot minute since I've written a syllable here. Sorry for that. My life has been moving at the speed of light this year. So fast, I was complaining to telling my coach the other day that I didn't have time to process everything that's going on as...
Détente
Known to those my age and older, détente is an easing of strained relations, for us the Cold War relationship between the US and the former Soviet Union. Forty years later, I am experiencing my own détente, and I have to say, it's freakin' me out a little. When was...
Anticipation Is Keeping Me Waiting
They say nature abhors a vacuum. I believe it, because I have a vacuum in my life, and it irks me, no end. I did it to myself, though. I made a choice. I ended a relationship that had run its course, served its specific purpose. And now there's this big, gaping hole...
Serenity first. Acceptance second. (a.k.a. Some things just yank my chain too damn much.)
For years, I've focused on the courage and wisdom parts of the Serenity Prayer. Courage to change the things I can. Wisdom to know the difference. Surprising to some, I dove into the courage part. It was something to *do*. I hid in action for a long time. Along the...
I Don’t Want to Get Caught Taking Life for Granted
I've been hearing for the last several months that 2012 is going to be a transformative year. Mostly in the spiritual circles I hang out in, but not exclusively. My astrologer friends say it's going to be a bumpy year, energetically, and those prepared to lean into it...
Famous Last Words
I have long said I would never home school my kids because it would end badly...likely with me in jail for murder. Several factors brought me to that conclusion, not least of which was Oldest Son's public school experience which was - in a word - exhausting. I freely...
The Courage to Connect and the Wisdom to Disconnect QUICKLY
I am single. Have been "officially" since 1993, the 8-year debacle with Completely Clueless notwithstanding. It's been 5 years now since that ended in a blaze of glory (quite literally - the house burned down, too) and in the time since I have gone from completely...
Will There Be No End to My Surprise?
So asked a friend of mine via email.
“Probably not anytime soon, ” I say to myself, but do not share with him.
Travel Plans
I would love to travel the world and see places I've read about, but it's not a burning desire that won't leave me alone. At least not right now. But there are a few places - no, people and places - I would like to go see: The Farm: This is a picture I want to one day...
I, Warrior Mom
Second Son’s graduation has me thinking about how I show up as a mom. I tell you, it’s not how I thought I would back before I was one.
When I became a mother, something inside me changed. Something went a little left. It’s like a secret code was activated and now inside me lives a fierce warrior. When pushed, she pushes back. Hard.
The Value of a High School Diploma Revisited
Three years ago, I wrote about the value of a high school diploma. On this morning of Second Son’s high school graduation, I’m proud to say he was one of the students who decided to flip the bird at me and cross over to the other side of the room.
Safety and Change: Yes, They Can Co-Exist
My mind gets scattered all over the place. I catch myself thinking more than one thing at a time, and it's like I have to decide which thing to pay attention to. It's hard to tune things out so I can pay attention to ONLY one thing. Hence why I find meditation so...
Leadership Is In My DNA
I don't know how not to lead. That might sound strange to you, but it's true. I am almost pathologically unable to sit still, be quiet, not jump in and take charge, particularly if there's a problem to be solved. I do know how to follow, but when there's a gaping void...
Awareness Requires Sleep
It's 10:30pm on Sunday night, and I'm sitting in my office with my two sons. We're each kind of doing our own thing, but we're doing it while carrying on a conversation...relating...BEing together. We just finished watching "I Am Sam" starring Sean Penn. We're all...